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Amigas y Amantes

Sexually Nonconforming Latinas Negotiate Family
Katie L. Acosta (Author)
192 pages, 3 graphs, 1 figure, 1 table, 6 x 9
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Series: Families in Focus
Subject Area:
LGBTQ Studies, Latina/o Studies, Sociology, Women's Studies
2014 Choice Outstanding Academic Title


Amigas y Amantes  (Friends and Lovers) explores the experiences of sexually nonconforming Latinas in the creation and maintenance of families. It is based on forty-two in-depth ethnographic interviews with women who identify as lesbian, bisexual, or queer (LBQ). Additionally, it draws from fourteen months of participant observation at LBQ Latina events that Katie L. Acosta conducted in 2007 and 2008 in a major northeast city. With this data, Acosta examines how LBQ Latinas manage loving relationships with the families who raised them, and with their partners, their children, and their friends.  

Acosta investigates how sexually nonconforming Latinas negotiate cultural expectations, combat compulsory heterosexuality, and reconcile tensions with their families. She offers a new way of thinking about the emotion work involved in everyday lives, which highlights the informal, sometimes invisible, labor required in preserving family ties. Acosta contends that the work LBQ Latinas take on to preserve connections with biological families, lovers, and children results in a unique way of doing family.

Paying particular attention to the negotiations that LBQ Latinas undertake in an effort to maintain familial order, Amigas y Amantes explores how they understand femininity, how they negotiate their religious faiths, how they face the unique challenges of being in interracial/interethnic relationships, and how they raise their children while integrating their families of origin.


"Amigas y Amantes makes a significant contribution to understanding the lives of 'sexually nonconforming' Latina women. Acosta compellingly reveals the life experiences of these women, the challenges they face, and the way they handle these challenges."
—Anita Garey, author of Weaving Work and Motherhood

"Amigas y Amantes offers a thought-provoking sociological lesson about gender conformity and femininity and the fascinating ways these may shape a Latina mother’s concern about the nonconforming sex life of her daughter."
—Gloria González-López, author of Erotic Journeys: Mexican Immigrants and Their Sex Lives

"Acosta explores the experience of Latinas who do not conform to traditional gender or cultural roles by identifying as lesbian, bisexual, or queer. A well-written, deeply engaging sociological work that discusses and promotes thought on gender conformity and femininity within the Latina culture. All academic libraries with sociology or women's studies programs absolutely must own this book. Essential."

"Amigas y Amantes offers a richly nuanced portrait of LBQ Latinas’ family lives. Acosta skillfully foregrounds the voices of her respondents to make visible the tensions and contradictions entailed in their efforts to bring together their
families of origin and choice, and, also important, to create spaces for the existence of the families they envision for themselves."
—American Journal of Sociology

Author / Editor Bio

KATIE L. ACOSTA is an assistant professor of sociology at Georgia State University.

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Table Of Contents


1. “As Long as You Wear a Dress”
2. “And Then the Father Set Me Free”
3. Doing Family from within Interracial/Interethnic Relationships
4. Parenting among Families of Choice
5. Integrating Families of Choice and Origin
6. Conclusion

Appendix A
Appendix B
Appendix C
Appendix D
Appendix E



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